I have known her for few months. We are close friends now.
The wedding party is held at a reception hall. I am thinking of giving money since she is under budget thesesdays and definetely would need money after the wedding.
Thanks guys.
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If you really want to give money I think a nice amount would at least $50. However, a really nice gift that could be less than that would be to have her wedding invitation framed.
I worked in a high end custom framing shop so I understand cutom framing can be very expensive. You can find a nice 5×7 or 8×10 (depending on the size of the invitation) and take it and the invitation to a custom frame shop to have a mat cut to fit the frame and invite.
This is a very personal and thoughful gift that your friend can put on her nightstand, fireplace, or anywhere else in her home.
*Note-If the invitation is an odd size (ex: square) you may have to have a custom frame made. But I am certain you can have that done custom from $50 to $80 depending on the frame you choose)
I myself have to live within a budget, I have lots of birthdays, with family on my side and my husband, and we are both on a fixed income, so for birthdays we give $10.00 or a gift card for that amount.
For weddings funerals other possible donations and such we will go as high as $25.00.
But you must consider your own income as everyone has to establish their own threshold of what they can afford or budget.
I’m sure your friend would be just as appreciative of a card IF you yourself really can’t afford a very big gift.
So really any amount that you feel you can comfortably give would be appropriate.
Money is very impersonal and uncouth. Let the family members give them money. I assume they are registered, so give them something from their registry. They handpicked their gifts for everyone so there is little thinking involved, and you know they want it and will use it. Look for something in your price range — usually commensurate with the cost of the wedding. Smaller, less lavish weddings for friends/colleagues — $50-100. Go on the higher end if you are bringing a guest. Lower end if you are solo. Check out http://www.theknot.com for advice.
First of all, you’re not “close” friends if you’ve only known each other a few months. You are friends and co-workers.
Second, her financial situation is not the standard by which you choose a gift. Give her a gift that you know she and her new husband would enjoy. If you know money is tight for them, then a gift certificate to a restaurant would probably be appreciated since they probably would not want to spend the money on that kind of an extra if they are having money problems.
Third, only give what YOU can afford! How much sense does it make for you to overspend out of your budget to give a gift to someone who is already over their own budget??? You need to determine what you can spend. Then, I would not spend more than $50 on a gift. That is plenty for a co-worker.
If they are that hard up for money, they shouldn’t be paying for a wedding at a hall in the first place! I wouldn’t be all that sympathetic.
If all you want to do is help her out financially, pay her cable bill for 6 months.
A wedding gift should be something that means something to them for years to come. Not just cash to help pay the rent.
We always had a kind of unwritten code, birthday gifts, wedding etc. Never more than $25 in value. I suppose it depends how close you are to the person, if you socialize outside of work etc.
I would give a gift cert to a favorite store and a small personal gift.
(picture frame is cheesy, but after a wedding and honeymoon you never have enough).
$30-$50